Well I have decided to do the love dare and am on day 2 today but will post day1's dare.
Why you might ask? Well my marriage seems to be falling apart right now and I'm not prepared to give it up. Often we neglect each other in marriages and let the devil destroy it. God is at the head of my marriage.
I hope all of you will share with me how you feel and if you would like to join in the dare feel free to.
Day 1 - Love is patient
1 Corinthians 13:13 And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these [is] charity.
Ephesians 4:2 With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love;
Love is life's most powerful motivator!
Love changes our motivation for living.
Love is built on two pillars: Patience & Kindness
Love will inspire you to become a patient person.
Patience brings an internal calm during an external storm.
Patience stops problems in their tracks. ~Quotes from The Love Dare www.fireproofmymarriage.com
What To Do Today
"Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the conditions of our heart. Today resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It is better to hold your tongue than to say something you'll regret."
1 Thessalonians 5:15 And to esteem them very highly in love for their work's sake. [And] be at peace among yourselves.
Questions At The End Of The Day
Did anything happen today to cause anger toward your mate?
No, surprisingly we had a good day.
Were you tempted to think disapproving thoughts and to let them come out in words?
Yes, I did think disapproving thoughts and prayed to God for forgiveness.
PS: If you would like to share, then share in your blog, or share in the comment field.
God Bless xoxoxo
Thursday, June 17, 2010
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
When the marriage gets tough ...
Do you find yourself going ... Going as in leaving?
I will guess not, but what if things get so tough that you need a break from your partner?
I know I sometimes feel that way ... that I can just disappear, runaway or die ... yes, you read right
I know everyone feels like sometime or another ... it might not be in your marriage but in a relationship of any sort ...
What do you do in a situation like this????
Well, I'm no angel and this whole marriage is also new to me still, but many a times I find myself saying things which I later regret having said ... but being married for almost 2 years now has really thought me allot.
I know when the going gets tough in my marriage I am so stressed out and so sad until we sort things out. It actually feels to me like we are not on the same planet or we do not speak the same language. It feels to me like we complete strangers just disagreeing ... and honestly I hate it when things turn out that way.
So I guess most of us have thought about it at least once in our marriage that our partners could die. And maybe there are a few out there that wish that they could just strangle their partners.
It's human nature to think that way, its sort of calms one down when you think about it that way, but actually performing the act is a whole other topic.
What I've learned when the going gets tough in my marriage:
* to keep my distance from my husband, otherwise the argument will never end
* to take a walk outside and just breath in fresh air
* to wait until he is calmed and then speak to him in a calm way telling him exactly how I feel
* and most importantly to be patient, because if I were to pressure him into talking things out it would actually make the situation worse
SO what have you learned in your marriage and what do you do in a (stressful) situation?
I will guess not, but what if things get so tough that you need a break from your partner?
I know I sometimes feel that way ... that I can just disappear, runaway or die ... yes, you read right
I know everyone feels like sometime or another ... it might not be in your marriage but in a relationship of any sort ...
What do you do in a situation like this????
Well, I'm no angel and this whole marriage is also new to me still, but many a times I find myself saying things which I later regret having said ... but being married for almost 2 years now has really thought me allot.
I know when the going gets tough in my marriage I am so stressed out and so sad until we sort things out. It actually feels to me like we are not on the same planet or we do not speak the same language. It feels to me like we complete strangers just disagreeing ... and honestly I hate it when things turn out that way.
So I guess most of us have thought about it at least once in our marriage that our partners could die. And maybe there are a few out there that wish that they could just strangle their partners.
It's human nature to think that way, its sort of calms one down when you think about it that way, but actually performing the act is a whole other topic.
What I've learned when the going gets tough in my marriage:
* to keep my distance from my husband, otherwise the argument will never end
* to take a walk outside and just breath in fresh air
* to wait until he is calmed and then speak to him in a calm way telling him exactly how I feel
* and most importantly to be patient, because if I were to pressure him into talking things out it would actually make the situation worse
SO what have you learned in your marriage and what do you do in a (stressful) situation?
Friday, November 6, 2009
Change in plans
Well, initially this blog was started to note my feelings around marriage and for 'secret' letters/posts to my husband, but now I have decided to 'change' this blog into a kind of advice column.
Anything goes ... any topic, from heartache, to breakups, to make ups, to sex ... any topic I feel I wanna post about I will and I will make it 'open' to the public to supply me with comments and feedback ...
My first topic will kick off on Monday ... so until then ... cheerio
Anything goes ... any topic, from heartache, to breakups, to make ups, to sex ... any topic I feel I wanna post about I will and I will make it 'open' to the public to supply me with comments and feedback ...
My first topic will kick off on Monday ... so until then ... cheerio
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