Day 3 ~ Love is not selfish

Romans 12:10

[Be] kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;

* The opposite of Love is selfishness

* Almost every sinful action ever committed can be traced back to a selfish motive!

* When a wife constantly complains about the time and energy she spends meeting the needs of her husband, that's a sign of selfishness.

* When you prioritize the well being of your mate, there is a resulting fulfillment that cannot be duplicated by selfish actions.

* Love leads to inner joy.

Today's Dare

Whatever you put your time, energy, and money into will become more important to you. It's hard to care for something you are not invested in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says " I was thinking of you today".

Question at the end of Day 3

What did you choose to give your husband?
I failed this dare.

What happened when you gave it?
Miserably

Day 2 ~ Love is Kind

"Fireproof doesn't mean that a fire will never come, but that when it comes, you'll be able to withstand it." ~ Quotes from Fireproof.

Gentleness: You speak the truth in LOVE

Helpfulness: Meeting the needs of the moment.(example: housework,a listening ear,ect)

Willingness: Kindness Inspires you to be agreeable.

Initiative: Kindness thinks ahead, then takes the first step. The one to greet first, smile first, serve first, and forgive first.

Let not mercy and truth forsake thee: bind them about thy neck; write them upon the table of thine heart: [4] So shalt thou find favour and good understanding in the sight of God and man. (Proverbs 3:3-4 KJV)

She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue [is] the law of kindness. (Proverbs 31:26 KJV)

Day Two Dare

In addition to saying nothing negative to your spouse again today, do at least one unexpected gesture as an act of kindness.

Questions:
What discoveries about love did you make today?
Love is all around us. All we need to do is be patient and kind.

What specifically did you do in this dare?
Kissed my husband hello and goodbye first

How did you show kindness?
Made him a warm cup of Milo before work

PS: feel free to share in the comments field

40 day love dare

Well I have decided to do the love dare and am on day 2 today but will post day1's dare.

Why you might ask? Well my marriage seems to be falling apart right now and I'm not prepared to give it up. Often we neglect each other in marriages and let the devil destroy it. God is at the head of my marriage.

I hope all of you will share with me how you feel and if you would like to join in the dare feel free to.

Day 1 - Love is patient

1 Corinthians 13:13 And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these [is] charity.

Ephesians 4:2 With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love;

Love is life's most powerful motivator!
Love changes our motivation for living.
Love is built on two pillars: Patience & Kindness
Love will inspire you to become a patient person.
Patience brings an internal calm during an external storm.
Patience stops problems in their tracks. ~Quotes from The Love Dare www.fireproofmymarriage.com

What To Do Today
"Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the conditions of our heart. Today resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It is better to hold your tongue than to say something you'll regret."

1 Thessalonians 5:15 And to esteem them very highly in love for their work's sake. [And] be at peace among yourselves.

Questions At The End Of The Day
Did anything happen today to cause anger toward your mate?
No, surprisingly we had a good day.
Were you tempted to think disapproving thoughts and to let them come out in words?
Yes, I did think disapproving thoughts and prayed to God for forgiveness.

PS: If you would like to share, then share in your blog, or share in the comment field.

God Bless xoxoxo

When the marriage gets tough ...

Do you find yourself going ... Going as in leaving?

I will guess not, but what if things get so tough that you need a break from your partner?

I know I sometimes feel that way ... that I can just disappear, runaway or die ... yes, you read right

I know everyone feels like sometime or another ... it might not be in your marriage but in a relationship of any sort ...

What do you do in a situation like this????

Well, I'm no angel and this whole marriage is also new to me still, but many a times I find myself saying things which I later regret having said ... but being married for almost 2 years now has really thought me allot.

I know when the going gets tough in my marriage I am so stressed out and so sad until we sort things out. It actually feels to me like we are not on the same planet or we do not speak the same language. It feels to me like we complete strangers just disagreeing ... and honestly I hate it when things turn out that way.

So I guess most of us have thought about it at least once in our marriage that our partners could die. And maybe there are a few out there that wish that they could just strangle their partners.

It's human nature to think that way, its sort of calms one down when you think about it that way, but actually performing the act is a whole other topic.

What I've learned when the going gets tough in my marriage:
* to keep my distance from my husband, otherwise the argument will never end
* to take a walk outside and just breath in fresh air
* to wait until he is calmed and then speak to him in a calm way telling him exactly how I feel
* and most importantly to be patient, because if I were to pressure him into talking things out it would actually make the situation worse

SO what have you learned in your marriage and what do you do in a (stressful) situation?

Introduction

This blog was started by me so that I can hopefully share my experiences and advice with other married women or those considering marriage.

I always thought of marriage as all roses and sunshine, but its not about that. It's about TEAMWORK.

This blog also serves as memory for my DH for when I'm no longer.

Mwah!!!